Hey everyone, it’s Adam DeGraide with a micro motivation here, I’m hanging out my office here in Orlando. And today I want to talk to you about regrets. And I just realized I definitely have a regret of not shaving today. But what are you going to do? What are the amazing things I don’t know if you guys have ever seen ‘We are the Millers,’ which by the way I’m not recommending or endorsing. It’s hilarious and wildly inappropriate.
There’s a scene where this gentleman comes, gentlemen I lightly use that term very lightly, comes to pick up his daughter and he’s in a mobile unit. The guy comes to the door he’s got tattoos, says no regrets, but it’s spelled RAGRETS. No regrets, gets in sits down and the father says to him, [UNCLEAR] Tell us a little bit about your tattoos’ He’s like, yeah, this is my Cobra. He’s like, this is my credo, my motto, no regrets. He goes, you don’t regret even one letter.
And it’s so funny because it made me think about a conversation that I had somebody just the other day, and Las Vegas for hanging out. And as you guys know, Las Vegas is a place that, you know, a lot of people do things that they actually do regret, right. And the individual that I was speaking with, he says, you know, Adam, because the funny thing about regrets, and he was trying to pontificate with me. He said, you know, regrets, by the way, are only regrets. If you actually still regret it later on. Right?
He goes, is it really regret if you don’t regret it the next day or the following day, even though you regret it at that moment? And it was such an interesting question. Because when you think about regrets, in general, so many people wonder, you know, and all of us have regrets things that we wish we could have done. But as time goes on, if we continue on those things that we know are wrong, that we are regretful for our initially and we bury it and we stuffed down, our heart actually starts to get hard. And it starts to harden, almost like a rock.
And like things that a grooves and patterns that we do in our life. If we groove them over and over and over again, what ends up happening is we create literally a ditch around us on both sides, and we’re stuck in a tunnel.
And my daughter, Brooke, when she was a young girl, she used to struggle tremendously with some anger issues, and potentially some attitude issues and she would get in trouble. Or she wouldn’t be able to have candy. Or she couldn’t do you know what she wanted to do. And actually, I’ll give you a little idea of who she is right now.
This is Brooke right over here. She is right there, that’s my lovely wife, Krystle and my eldest son, Zachary, as well, too. And when Brooke was a little girl, one of the things that she would actually do is she gets so angry in her heart, her face would get so red. And it was like I was like Brooke, you honey, honey, relax, you need to relax, and it wasn’t working, she would just keep getting angrier and angrier. And then all of a sudden, I thought of an illustration that might help her. And I said, you know, sweetheart, I said right now your heart is like a rock solid. I said, I need you to soften it like a marshmallow. Let’s soften the heart like a marshmallow.
And it was interesting, because immediately her whole demeanor would change. She’d start to calm down and she think about it. You see, it’s like that with us in our lives as well, too. There’s so many things that we do over and over again, and we regret them. Just because we don’t think we regret them years from now doesn’t mean that we actually don’t have regret, and pain in our heart. All we’ve done is harden our heart like a rock. And there’s only one thing that can happen to a rock. If it has to be made soft again, it has to be broken.
And that’s what ends up happening with us. And our regrets lead to pain in our life sickness in some cases. And if we continue in those behaviors, it’s not great. So remember today, if you do something, and you feel the spirit of God telling you that wasn’t right, you shouldn’t do it. That’s the moment of regret. That’s when we ask for forgiveness. That’s when we soften our heart like a marshmallow. And that’s when the healing comes in. And so later in life, when we’re laying in our bed hopefully we can literally say we’ve had no regrets. Many things we’ve asked for forgiveness for but nothing that we actually regret. So guys, thanks for listening. This is Adam DeGraide with the micro motivation. Remember if you can’t say it in under four minutes, you got no point to make. Have a great day guys.